Overall I had a wonderful Thanksgiving weekend! We had some great family time, relaxation, and friend time!
However, I still had those little reminders, no matter how hard I tried to avoid/ignore them.
First on Wednesday night we went out with friends, two couples. One couple with a 1.5 year old and the other with a 6 month old. They don't know about us "trying", so I smiled and kept my game face on, but this is a quick summary. . . .
1. Somehow one of the girls must have misheard something and said Oh my god, you're pregnant, congratulations and then everyone else chimed in. I truly do not know where she got this from, but she heard it in her head. So I spent the next 20 minutes explaining to people that no, I was not pregnant.
2. Another girl kept telling me how she wished she hadn't have waited so long to have a baby and what a joy her baby is.
Again, I am not mad or frustrated with them, they have NO idea that we are trying. In fact, they think we want to wait a while longer (because up until 1.5 years ago, we did and have never told anyone anything different). But it was still a little hard, just because I wanted to have a night of fun, rather than think about all that.
On Thanksgiving day, my brother's girlfriend brought it up. She also has no idea, so no fault, but just something I didn't want to talk about.
Today, my best friend's daughter's birthday party. This time no one said anything or made any any remarks to me, but it was a little hard, because when you think of having children you think of their birthdays and Christmas, and Disneyworld. So it was just one more reminder.
I am not in a bad place, but I guess just a little worn down. And it's one more reminder of why I have recently (about a year) become a hermit.
And maybe you are wondering why I have not told so many people. I don't like having to deal with the types of above mentioned comments, but I would rather put my brave face on and laugh through it than have people handle me with kiddie gloves or pity me or make decisions about what I can and can't handle. Also, I feel like if they make these comments and don't know, then I won't be mad at them. BUT if they do know and act like an asshole or be ignorant, then I know my feelings will be hurt and I will be mad at them.
I hope no one has any horror stories from this holiday weekend!